Quick post! It’s been too long and I’ve decided that another day cannot go by without posting something. So, relationships.
Recently, I’ve been thinking about why people want so badly to be in a relationship. To be completely honest, I don’t really understand what the rush is. In my ideal world, I would graduate high school, go to medical school, then go on the mission field. Have a relationship?? Maybe, maybe not. On the other hand, there are friends of mine who are in a such a rush to have a boyfriend, get married, and have children.
I know that both of these mentalities are wrong, and as painful as it may seem, sinful. For me to act indifferently towards getting married is a sin. God said in Genesis, “It is not good for man to be alone.” and for me to ignore that fact is ignorant, immature, and selfish. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I don’t fan girl over David Tennant or Captain America, but I guess I’m just afraid. I’m caught in the “performance trap” and am afraid that I’ll fall short of expectations and disappoint. I’m fleeing from trying to gain approval to avoid failure to gain it.
On the other hand, there are those girls, and even guys, who are in such a rush to be in a relationship that they are literally hunting for a potential spouse. While it is good to keep your eyes open, it is sinful for this to be a focus. All too often, seeking out a girlfriend/boyfriend can result in broken relationships. This can lead to flirtatious behavior and often creates dissatisfaction, even in marriages. We need to wait for God’s timing and in the mean time, take advantage of the freedom of “singleness.” This mentality also springs from insecurity. Each person is searching for the approval that can be found by being in a relationship. A sense of being wanted, loved, and important. “Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him.” Psalm 37:7a
One specific idea that I still can’t understand is: Why are you in such a rush to get married, when you can only be single for a short period of your life? Not being tied down by relationships can open doors for amazing opportunities. For instance, my mom (a nurse) went to Haiti along with my sister and I last summer. Although she enjoyed every single moment of it, as did I, she knows that she can’t go back for a while. She said, “this isn’t my season to be going on missions. I have a family to take care of and as a homeschool mom, my 11-year-old son can’t educate himself.”
I guess that’s just my two cents on relationships. What was supposed to be a “quick” post, turned into an essay… 😛 Thoughts??